Stress Management


Another Saturday and another trip by me and my husband to the Lowe’s in Columbus, Ohio. These frequent trips were happening because we were the proud owners of a lot in South Carolina. A lot begs for a house to be built and we took the challenge. We weren’t novices at house building but this was different and it felt like an adventure. This house would require us to oversee every tiny detail from selecting the house plans to finding a builder to doing what we were doing that day. All of it from Ohio. On this Lowe’s trip, we were in the lighting isle, heads up, and staring at the brightness and dimensions. I was daunted as I considered every room, every crevice I might want to have lit. Looking down at my list in hand, I felt a heaviness in my chest. I rubbed it to make it go away. Not again, I thought, what’s wrong with me, now? I shifted by mind back to the lights just wanting to get it over with.

Stressed person

Have you ever found yourself experiencing internal turmoil because of the stress in your life?

I happen to be one of those people who haphazardly manages my stress. Sure, you can lecture me on all the significant health effects stress has on the body, but I already know all that as a nurse. And, I won’t bore you with the health statistics but trust me when I say that the terms significant health effects and stress will always be in the same sentence. It’s true that low level stress can have positive effects on our performance, but constant and sustained stress is bad for us at every level.

Every time I walked into Lowe’s to make house selections, I felt like a python was squeezing me to death. Of course, you saw the connection as you read the story, but I couldn’t put it together at the time. The stress kept me from doing so. Multiple stressors were tapping my resources and this one women show was starting to bomb. I was worrying about everyone and everything. When I was told the chest heaviness and stomach issues were causing panic anxiety, it didn’t sit well with me. My first thought labeled that as ridiculous and lame. Panic anxiety? I couldn’t believe I had that much stress to cause that kind of anxiety. The physician prompted me to share the matters and concerns in my life. As  I heard the list with my own ears, only then did I realized the burden I was carrying. One stressor heaped onto another had brought me to my knees.

Stress-2902537_640Stress steals

What has stress stolen from you? Sleep? Peace of mind? Health? Life hours? Self-control? Joy? Laughter? If you spend any time thinking about it, you’ll find that stress causes casualties. Excessive stress steals and it can draw you away from God. It’s really important to monitor the forms of stress and the amount of stress in your life. Believe me, I don’t want to get to the point where my body tells me I’m on overload especially when I can proactively monitor the stress in my life. I have to let go of what I can’t control and ask the Lord to lead me through what I can control. I deny myself peace when I fail to remember my lived experience of His provision over the course of my life.

Stress quotes-933816_640Jesus knows

If you consider everything Jesus went through during his time on earth, you’ll find he fully and completely understands the stressors in your life.

Jesus knows the stress associated with meeting demands. The people came to him day and night for healing, prayer, comfort, miracles, and teaching. He knows your weariness as you try to meet the needs of those in your circle.

Jesus understands your difficulty managing the conflict between God’s commands and daily influences. Jesus was sought by Satan, faced political powers, and others in authority who tempted and mocked him.

Jesus came face to face with betrayal and rejection as those in his intimate circle deserted him. He sees the toll it takes on your heart when you experience the same.

Jesus’ responded to the death of Lazarus and John the Baptist with great sadness. He deeply understands the stress you experience of losing those you love.

We were not meant to face high stress situations and traumatic events alone. Human to human, heart to heart is how we grow endurance, resilience, and hope. When we allow ourselves to be supported by God and His people, then we find a strength we can never create on our own. It is not a sign of weakness to reach out for help. I used to think needing help meant I was insufficient to handle it on my own and that was a bad thing. Now, I know better. Asking for help is a sign of wisdom and the way to live life well during stressful and overwhelming situations. There is a tendency for us to think we have to be strong and endure but if we do this out of our own strength we will eventually falter and crash. Don’t let your pride say, “No thanks” to God’s help or any other help as it comes to you.

God will meet you and lift you up  because of His great love for you

Intentionally choose to deeply trust God. There’s nothing in your life that’s too unimportant for God. He wants to get in it with you. Isaiah 40 from The Message Bible helps to explain God’s desire to meet you in your immediate need.

“Why would you ever complain…saying, “God has lost track of me. He doesn’t care what happens to me”? God doesn’t come and go. God lasts. He’s Creator of all you can see or imagine. He doesn’t get tired, doesn’t pause to catch his breath. And he knows everything, inside and out. He energizes those who get tired, gives fresh strength to dropouts. For even young people tire and drop out, young folk in their prime stumble and fall. But those who wait upon God get fresh strength. They spread their wings and soar like eagles. They run and don’t get tired, they walk and don’t lag behind.” (Isaiah 40:27-31)

Peace-3010107_640Your faith is power-packed to help you remain resilient

In the studies conducted on resilience, a key factor was identified and a question was posed: Why are some individuals able to “bounce back” better than others? This is how the term resiliency gained importance. The studies discovered that some of us have developed protective strategies as we are confronted with stress and one such strategy is spirituality. For believers in Christ, one of the key protective elements is faith, hope, and trust. We see God as a source of security, a sure thing, when all else seems to be crumbling. With our faith built on the foundation of God’s promises, we can exist within the circumstance, hold on to the good, and move through the stress or traumatic event one small step at a time. Truly, that’s all we are able to do--take one step at a time, believing God has hold of us, and He will stoop down to meet us in it.

Rely on God for…

Icon Hearts Encouraged (2)God provides relationships, particularly unlikely relationships or people who come into your life for just a season--for such a time as this.

Icon Hearts Encouraged (2)God provides inner direction through the Holy Spirit. You need only focus on quieting your mind and heart in order to hear.

Icon Hearts Encouraged (2)God provides the capacity for you to endure.

Icon Hearts Encouraged (2)God speaks tenderly to your heart to increase your confidence in your ability to stand strong. God provides wisdom.

Icon Hearts Encouraged (2)God can help you see how He is working and how He is using you as a source of strength to others as they view your example of strength and endurance. And, when you can’t be strong, He will provide those resources through people who will come along aside.

What worries will you let go of and place into the Lord’s care? Will you receive the peace of Christ letting it rule rather than stress? Is stress stealing something from you? Take it back! Are your thoughts taking you down the path of worry or anxiety? Put up a mental roadblock and capture those thoughts. You’ve got this!

Thank you for reading and I pray peace fills your heart and mind. Please share this post to encourage others.  Blessings to you, Terri



Mayo Clinic link for Healthy Lifestyle – Stress Management:

Impact of Stress on the Body

Bartol, G. M. and Courts, N. F. (2005). Holistic Nursing: A Handbook for Practice. The Psychophysiology of Bodymind Healing. B. Dossey, C. Guzetta, and L. Keegan (Eds). Sudbury MA: Jones & Bartlett; Graham, J. E., Robles, T. F., Kiecolt-Glaser, J. K., Malarkey, W. B., Bissell, M. G., & Glaser, R. (2006). Hostility and pain are related to inflammation in older adults. Brain, Behavior, and Immunity, 20, 389-400; Tully, P. J., Cosh, S. M., & Baune, B. T. (2013). A review of the affects of worry and generalized anxiety disorder upon cardiovascular health and coronary heart disease. Psychology, Health & Medicine, 18 (6), 627-644.

Jesus Knows

Luke 22:39-44 (stress of upcoming death); Matthew 14:13-16 (demands and needs of the people); Matthew 4:1-11 (tempted); Luke 22:1-6, 54-62 (betrayed and deserted); Matthew 27:27-31 (mocked); Luke 23 (crucifixion); John 11:35 (wept); Matthew 14:6-12 (John’s death); Matthew 27:11-26 (Pilate, religious leaders)


Resilience to loss and potential trauma. Bonanno, G. A., Westphal, M. & Mancici, A. D. (2011). Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, 7, 511-535. doi: 10.1146/annurev-clinpsy-032210-104526

Resilience to loss and potential trauma. Bonanno, G. A., Westphal, M. & Mancici, A. D. (2011). Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, 7, 511-535. doi: 10.1146/annurev-clinpsy-032210-104526;

Navigating hardships in old age: exploring the relationship between spirituality and resilience in later life. Manning, L. K. (2012). Qualitative Health Research, 23 (4) 568-575. doi: 10.1177/1049732312471730

Spirituality and resilience among post-graduate university students. Gnanaprakash, C. (2013). Journal of Health Management, 15 (3), 383-396. doi: 10.1177/0972063413492046

Resiliency in action: Practical ideas for overcoming risks and building strengths in youth, families, and communities. Henderson, N. (2014).  Retrieved from

The Adventure of Journaling


How are you? I ask with sincerity because I pray for you each morning. I know God knows who reads this blog and I seek blessings and peace on your behalf. I know I need as much peace and blessings in my life as God’s willing to give me so I figure you do, too!

Today’s post is about the practice of journaling and the creative uses and benefits of the practice. Yes, I know you don’t need one more “thing” to do but you might be surprised at how simple it is to journal. And, the benefits truly out-weigh the cost of your time and effort. It’s a great form of stress management. Journaling can help rewire your brain toward optimism and hope. It’s a fun, creative way to address problems, find solutions, and connect with our inner most self. You benefit physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Whether it’s prayers, praise or anything else you want to share with God—it’s what we’re invited to do. God wants you and I to pour out our hearts to him, bringing hopes and dreams, anxieties and worries, and requests and gratitude (Philippians 4:6, Psalm 62:8, Psalm 66:19-20, 1 Peter 3:12). Journaling is a great format for doing so. Let’s dive into the purpose of journals, the benefits of journaling, and the various types of journals you can create.

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Purpose of Journaling

  • Journaling is a practice of self-care. You can be authentic and free to express in a safe manner all the feelings and thoughts that you can’t express in other ways.
  • Journaling is an activity where you move the thoughts and emotions held within your heart and mind and place these in an alternative format. The format is determined by you to utilize the best expression of those thoughts and emotions. It can take any form such as a map, a list, as art, as narrative, or freeform streaming of thoughts and emotions.
  • Your journal is a mirror to your mind and soul. You express what is within and this helps you to view your authentic self. Healing, growth, creativity, passion, dreams and more can be experienced and/or revealed.
  • Journaling is a process that frees up your mind. As thoughts and feelings are realized in an alternative format, the process opens pathways that were blocked or clogged with the concern, issue, or emotional turmoil. Your mind is free to take a rest.
  • Your journal is a memoir. As you place your inner most self in a tangible format (released from your heart and mind), you have an opportunity to take the position like that of a third party or observer. Observing yourself, as if from a distance, may help you understand with increased clarity and perspective. New insights may be revealed.
  • Journaling helps you to track habitual thoughts and emotions that may be unproductive or unhealthy. It brings the subconscious to your awareness so you can take charge of what and why of thoughts and feelings.

Benefits of Journaling

  • Did you know that studies on journaling revealed we benefit physically from the practice of journaling? Physical benefits include enhanced immune system, improved memory function, reduced anxiety and stress, decreased blood pressure, increased capacity to cope with distressing issues and concerns, better sleep, increased healing of the body particularly the skin.
  • There are spiritual benefits when you engage in journaling. Spiritual benefits include peace of mind, peace of heart, enhanced awareness of God’s active presence, a deepened belief and trust in the promises of God, and it helps you track God’s faithfulness in your life.
  • Journaling promotes a mindfulness of what we are thinking and feeling. Bringing awareness to your thoughts, thought patterns, emotional responses is one of the ways you can manage stress and your response to the events that happen to you and around you.
  • Journaling brings your focus to the positive aspects of your day and your life.

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Types of Journals

Below are descriptions of a few types of journals you can create. You can have one journal that has two or three focus sections or two or more separate journals. There are many different templates for journaling available on the internet. Some examples include:, Microsoft Word Diary Templates, or Evernote. You can have a writing journal or an art journal like me. The journal is to support you not to burden you. The journal should be part of your of practice of self-care and not an obligation. The purpose of your journal will be unique to what you need and want. I don’t write or draw in my journals every day. My journals are a creative outlet and it helps me connect with God. I have an art journal, a notebook where I write prayers to God, and I have a “word from God” journal. I encourage you to try the practice of journaling by using one of the ideas below.

Gratitude Journal

I love the gratitude journal! There is so much for me to be grateful for. But too often I fail to be in a mode of gratitude. For example, it’s not until I’m sick with a virus or other malaise that I recognize how grateful I am for my overall good physical health. When I write down what I’m grateful for this act keeps me in a mode of thankfulness. It moves me away from a heart and mind that dwells only on what isn’t right, what isn’t happening, and getting stuck in a cycle of criticism and negativity.

Brainstorm Journal (or Mind Map)

The brainstorm journal is great when you have a project or a passion that you are trying to bring to reality. The reason I love this journal is because it can be completely disorganized. I’m organized in every aspect of my life but this allows me to be the opposite. This journal has you place at the center of your Word doc or piece of paper an idea, a passion, a project, or even a problem. With the main concept in the center, you move from the center outward and place the words and/or images that come to mind around the center focus. For example, I brainstormed (mind mapped) my blog. At the center of my Word doc was the word BLOG and a stick figure of me. Then I pasted cloud images all around the word BLOG and filled each cloud with those ideas that would help me realize my project. For another example, go to the navigation bar on the blog site and find “I Get To…” This is an example of a Mind Map but is similar  to a Brainstorm Journal.

Scripture Journal

The Scripture Journal is a wonderful way to imbed impactful verses of the Bible into your heart and mind. I’m such a visual person and there are times when I read a particular verse I get an image in my mind. One day I was reading Sarah Young’s book, Jesus Calling, and was on day January 19. The writing said, “I am like a supersaturated cloud, showering Peace into the pool of your mind.” Well, immediately I imagined a cloud over my body gently raining drops of peace on my head and body. That image brought such a peace into my heart that I decided I needed to draw it. I didn’t want to lose that image. My scripture journal is an art journal of those verses that evoke an image in my mind that I want to remember because I believe it deepens my unique way of being in relationship with God. (I use high quality stick figures—you don’t have to be an artist is what I’m implying.)

Mindful Awareness Journal (Mindful Journal)

A Mindful Awareness Journal can have several purposes. For the journal to be effective you need to engage in the act of being mindful--being present and experiencing the present with full awareness. Here’s an example of being mindfully aware: I find a place to sit in quiet indoors or outdoors. I am purposefully aware and very present in the moment. I deliberately quiet my mind and body allowing my senses to become fully active. I let my senses have precedence over the movement of mind and body. I slow down to take in the details—sound, sight, smell, touch, taste. I focus on sounds and images present before me. I breathe in deeply the air making note of any scents. This very present awareness places me in a state of being able to receive. Receive what? The rhythm of nature, the peace of God, the presence of those with me. I use the Mindful journal to track whatever I experience or receive during my time in quiet awareness. Later, even weeks or months, I’m able to go back to what I perceived or experienced. Another use for the Mindful Journal is monitoring and document the ebb and flow of your emotions. Acknowledging what you’re feeling and allowing those feelings to surface has important health benefits. Yet another use for the Mindful Journal is related to food and diet. It can help you identify triggers for specific eating habits as you document what you eat, when you eat it, and what you’re thinking about before and during food intake.

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Well Done Journal

A Well Done Journal is a fantastic way to capture your best self. In this journal, you congratulate yourself for what you have accomplished, goals achieved or achieving, mountains climbed figuratively or literally, or any small or big hurdle you have successfully conquered. You do so much good in your life and it often gets unacknowledged by you. Why do we need to congratulate our self? It’s great for us! Acknowledging what you do well keeps you motivated and encouraged. It’s promotes your confidence and feeds your soul. You are of such great worth to God and you are gifted by Him! When you recognize your unique contributions, it chases away self-condemning thoughts, internal criticism of self, and discouragement.

Faithfulness Journal or Prayer Tracker Journal

A Faithfulness Journal is where you capture God’s history of faithfulness, goodness, or presence in your life. This journal can double as a Prayer Tracker Journal as well. I started a journal documenting all the ways God had provided for me, sustained me in the past. I went all the way back to my birth. It was enlightening to go back through events hand in hand with God asking to be shown how He was there with me. At the time of those events I couldn’t see or understand God’s purpose and presence, but in reflection I saw with incredible clarity what I couldn’t see then—His nearness and His presence with me. I live in greater faith and trust because I invested the time to delve into God’s history of faithfulness to me. It’s that history that enables me to refuse to play with worst case scenario thinking and other non-productive thoughts. The Prayer Tracker also tracks God’s involvement in our lives. This journal involves documenting your prayers and then following up on these prayers with the status, response, or result. Regardless of the status of the prayers, answered or yet to be answered, it is good to track what we have brought before God because it can help to increase your focus on the active presence of God in your life.

If you have a type of journal that you find impactful and helps you live well, please share in Comments. I’d love to hear to from you. As always you can email me directly at

Thanks for reading! Terri



Barbara Montgomery Dossey and Lynn Keegan, Holistic Journal of Nursing, Sixth Edition (Sudbury: Jones & Bartlett Learning, 2013), 254.

Brian Luke Seward, Managing Stress: principles and strategies for health and well-being  (Sudbury: Jones and Bartlett Publishing, 2006), 215.

Cyndie Koopsen and Caroline Young, Spirituality, Health, and Healing and Integrative Health: A Holistic Approach for Health Professionals (Sudbury: Jones and Bartlett Publishing, 2011).

Kate Thompson, Therapeutic Journal Writing: an introduction for professionals (London: Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2011).

A Child's Heart - It's In You

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My heart earnestly thanks those of you who have subscribed to the blog. You are my encouragers! Quite a few of you have encouraged me right into creating this blog! When you post a comment, I'm encouraged. When you "Like" a post, I'm encouraged. Just like you, my goal is to honor God and share His message. In turn I hope to encourage you to stay strong in your faith. Now, let's get to the Soul Focus.

Soul Focus:  A Child’s Heart—It’s in You



Wow! Christmas is here. Family, friends, programs, presents, food, and a lack of rest. How did it go? In all of that busyness I wonder if you stopped to play. You know, play, as a child would. Don’t tell me you’re too old, too grown-up, too inflexible, or too whatever else. It’s good for you to PLAY! Before you were anything else, you were a child. You still are in God’s eyes.

How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! 1 John 3:1

One way to get in touch with your inner child is play. Think about your favorite activity as a child. What was your best toy? What did you do as a child that you loved but haven’t done for so many years? What fun activity did you do where time seemed to stand still? Here's an example from my childhood. I remember all the kids on my street playing tag in the late afternoon leading into sunset. We didn’t notice the waning light because we were just doing play and nothing else mattered. Not dinner, not the dim light, not the call of our parents. My plea to my mom was always" just 5 more minutes". 

If you're not yet swayed that play should move to the top of your To Do List, then how about I throw some science your way.

  • Play allows your brain to relax. Your mind needs to wander away from problem-solving tasks. By doing so, you increase your problem-solving potential when you go back at the task.
  • Play stimulates the five senses which is incredibly important for brain efficiency. It’s called neurobics. No kidding! Did you know that the five senses (sight, hearing, taste, touch, and smell) require continual and challenging stimulation? Our senses map to different areas of the brain and the sensory input helps us engage functions such as planning, problem solving and critical thinking.
  • The brain needs to be challenged in different ways. We get into habitual routines such as driving the same route to work, eating the same foods in the same eateries, using the same problem-solving technique over and over, and performing daily tasks in a similar routine. This makes for efficiency but it’s not that great for the brain.


Clearly, I've established play is important for your brain. But, enough of the science. Here’s the practical reasons:

  • Play builds relationships. You are and always will be your child’s best first toy! Young or old you should be inviting your kids, family, and friends to play with you! Trips, activities, new experiences, games, art, sports, puzzles—play brings you together. It’s about the act of being together. Let go of the striving and competition.
  • Play reduces stress. Play stabilizes emotions. Researchers have found that coloring can reduce anxiety in adults and children.
  • Play is very good for our physical, emotional, and social health. And, it helps us spiritually as well.


Play is probably one of most direct ways to getting in touch with your inner child. When I was a child I was amazed at the world, asked questions, and was in a continual state of wonder. My heart and mind were open. I received the world through a child’s heart. I met God with that heart.

One of the wonders of a relationship with God is how we can relate to Him. When I come before God as a child, I feel great comfort and security. I'm amazed how this shift in my thinking, in my approach toward Him, has changed the relationship. It has enriched my soul. But, this can happen only with an open heart. As for myself, I closed off my heart for specific reasons and that act has had consequences. It's taken a lot work to re-open my heart as it was when I was a child. With an open heart I'm more fully able to live as the woman God created me to be. How do I engage with the world through an open heart? For me, it starts with attending to the world with a child’s curiosity. I focus on the details of nature. I try to live with joy. I find ways to play. And, I make it a priority to connect with the child that lives within my heart. 

It's your turn. I would love to hear from you! Share your favorite childhood "play" memory. Share what you do today to keep the "play" in your life. Or, share how you relate to God as His child. You could inspire the rest of us to get our "play" on!!!  

Fondly, Terri

I Get To...


There are plenty of things you get to do. With gratitude, take stock of everything that makes up your life.

What are three things you get to do today. Here's a few ideas: dream, play, create, and on and on. Be specific. Do one of your ideas today. Just for 5 minutes. Get lost in what you get to do!




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In 2017, I'll be posting excerpts from my unpublished book, Now That's I've Found You, God: Being in an intentional and authentic relationship with God. Be looking for more information in the next post on January 6th.

Post References

Can Coloring Mandalas Reduce Anxiety? Renee van der Vennet.

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