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August 2018

The Undercover Perfectionist

Hello and Welcome Everyone!

This month I have the privilege of introducing you to my friend and fellow writer, Leslie Newman. Leslie has a wonderful blog titled Journey to Imperfect. It so happens she is a recovering perfectionist like me! Leslie has a passion for helping us see that we are all different and unique. In her own words, "every person will follow a different path in working through these kinds of issues. But although we have different circumstances, we have the same God and He is all about restoring us and bringing us to completeness through His Son Jesus." Leslie believes prayer is the key to overcoming the barriers that prevent us from becoming exactly who God designed us to be. When you visit her blog, you'll find fantastic posts as well as free resources including a Prayer Notebook, Hope Kits, and more. 

For the month of August, Leslie asked me to write a guest post for her blog because of my extensive experience with perfectionism. Below you'll find the link so you can read the full post there.  Please feel free to share the post with anyone who could use the encouragement to dabble with imperfection! Let Leslie and I know how it resonated with you.  Fondly, Terri

The Undercover perfectionist


If you know the phrase, "Do unto others as you would have them do to you", then you know that it's a call to love others as you would love yourself. But, do you know there's an alternative version of that life mantra? It goes like this, "Do to myself what I would not do to others".
 
As an undercover perfectionist, I employ the latter mantra when I heap unrealistic expectations upon myself that I would not and do not expect of others. You can't see my perfectionism because you're not subject to it. You, my friend, do not have to live up to the high bar of perfection I have set for myself. That bar is for me alone and there's no mercy from me to me when I fail to hit it. What good can come from that?
 
None.
 
I can't thrive when I subject myself to that kind of pressure, striving, and harshness.
 
If the undercover perfectionist wants to challenge their perspective, then three questions should be explored:
 
Who defines perfect?
Why is perfection the wrong goal?
What's the personal impact for the undercover perfectionist?