Trust without Boundaries

Hello and Welcome! To set the scene for this topic on boundaries, my focus is on the verse found in Luke 7:39. From the New Living Translation, it reads: When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “if this man [Jesus] were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner.” Keep this in mind as I'll paraphrase this verse later in the post. My hope is you will glean new insights and encouragement!

Boundary markerBack in ancient days, boundary markers were a common and significant sign to anyone who came upon them. These markers were placed by the landowner and designated the boundaries of that land. Moving or removing boundary markers was the equivalent of stealing or theft (Deuteronomy 19:14). As the boundary markers could not be permanently affixed to the ground, respect for the markers was expected.

It was an issue of trust.

We practice this ancient custom in our modern world. Every aspect of our life contains boundaries of some kind whether in sports, business, or personal relationships. A boundary line is established because there is a need. For instance, in sports it has to do with what’s in and what’s out. It’s about the football receiver balancing on tiptoe down the sideline, shifting his weight infield for those ever-precious inches. Or, the Olympic gymnast rapidly tumbling and landing with centimeters to spare at the edge of the mat. It’s about setting limits--go up to the boundary line, but no further. Cross the line and there are consequences.

Tennis court boundaryIn our personal relationships we set invisible boundary lines for ourselves and/or for others. The wounded hearts puts into place boundary lines and markers as a protective measure. These lines mark the foundation upon which impenetrable walls are built. Nothing gets past the boundaries.

Nothing.

And if that’s the case, is it really protection? Or, is it a prison? What exactly sparked the need for these boundary lines?

It’s an issue of trust.

Trust without Boundaries Luke 4.18Jesus was invited to the dinner, but she was not. They labeled her a sinner and the wounds were deep. What drove her to walk in, uninvited, and make a scene? Tears flowed as she knelt to kiss his feet. What did she hope to gain by going there? Acceptance? Healing? Humbly, she poured the oil on his feet. With love she wiped it away with her hair. And the dinner guests watched. They knew who she was and wondered why Jesus did not.

Jesus knew.

He set no boundary line that she could not cross. And, she came to him with a trusting, wounded heart. Jesus met her need and she received salvation, freedom, and peace. (paraphrased from Luke 7:36-49, NIV)

Trust - Take My Heart Lord
There’s no need for boundary lines with Jesus. The day I brought to Him my tears and my wounded heart, I found healing in His presence. That day I rested secure at His feet and found acceptance. The power of Jesus was released creating new boundaries and a secure shelter. My trust in Him and His love for me freed my heart in a way nothing else could. Walls were torn down and markers were no longer required. I found salvation, freedom, and peace. And, so it goes today.

There is wonder and beauty in an intimate relationship with Jesus. It’s like no other. May we be willing to explore the landscape of our heart in search of boundary lines no longer needed. These lines and markers that keep us from Christ-given freedom and peace can be torn down. I was willing and there’s been no regret. There is no need to protect my heart when it’s in the hands of my Savior.

Please share with me how your relationship with Jesus brings wellness and healing to your heart. We’d love to be encouraged with your comments. If you haven’t visited the Hearts Encouraged Facebook page, pop over there and “Like” the page so you can see the occasional Live events that I post and other encouragement.

Fondly, Terri


The Saboteur Within

Have you ever watched someone enthusiastically take a hold of a project or idea and start infusing it with their special talent? I find it very motivating because you can just see the energy bursting forth from their being as they accept the challenge. Do you agree? You may even be one of those beautiful souls. As for me, I choose to stop to consider if I have the talent, the resources, the desire to invest and so on. Those considerations are wise and detrimental. It’s detrimental when it positions me in front of the door leading to self-sabotage. When I walk through that dismal door I’m smack dab in self-judgment, critical assessment, and self-condemnation. These are obstacles preventing me from moving forward and trying the new thing. Crazy, isn’t it?

MasterpieceFor we are God’s masterpiece, He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Ephesians 2:10 NLT

The word “masterpiece” describes something of such high quality that there are very few like it. So, my fellow masterpieces, is that how you see yourself? Are you able to look yourself in the mirror and say aloud with heartfelt conviction, I’m God’s masterpiece? We are not only a masterpiece, but the apostle Paul says there are good things each one of us have been created to do. Those words should be invigorating unless there’s a saboteur lurking inside you. When self sabotage revs ups, courage gets trampled. We miss out when the saboteur gets a say. When I see myself as God’s masterpiece, not yet perfected but a work in process, then I can be bold and courageous.

You have within you special and unique qualities and you get to decide how much of yourself you’ll put out there in the world. You get to choose to share your heart with that other heart God’s placed on your life path. You get to trust that God has given you or will give you exactly what you need for today and for your tomorrows. When we critique our abilities and resources while weighing the situation before us, then we’re moving into the area of self-sabotage. I define self-sabotage this way: condemnation or self-defeating judgment about past performance that is applied to a present opportunity. Too many times I let my inner saboteur talk me out of God assignments, learning new skills, and living new adventures. Who is could be a better judge than me as to my capability? We all know the answer to that question! Take this to heart: as God’s masterpiece, any lesser alternative perception of yourself cannot be more significant than God’s view of you.

EmbersDo not stifle the Holy Spirit. 1 Thessalonians 5:19 NLT

 We must guard against moving into the territory of stifling or quenching the Spirit within. The Spirit is equated to a fire, a vibrant, active fire in our soul. And just like any fire, it can be reduced to smoldering embers. I smother the Holy Spirit when I discount my worth, my abilities, and my usefulness in God’s kingdom. The verses I provided from 1 Thessalonians and Ephesians are the same verses that awakened me to see my persistent self-judgment and condemnation. But perhaps the most significant verse that impacted me was the one from Luke 6:37-38, Do not judge and you will not be judged. Do not condemn and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven. The words judge and condemn jumped off the page and pierced my heart, I knew it was no longer acceptable for me to engage in self-defeating judgment and self-condemnation. Previously, I read this verse as applicable to my actions toward others, but that day God wanted me to apply it to how I treated my own heart. What about you? Do you need to treat yourself with a little more kindness and a lot less judgment and condemnation? You and I are called to share our uniqueness with this crazy world. You are God’s beloved, a delight in His eyes and He is your biggest fan! Embrace that truth and quench the inner saboteur. 

SabotageWhen I get into self-sabotage mode, I take two action steps to get me back on track: Thought-Capture Self Check and Power Talk Statements. Power talk is a great heart lift because it's based off of verses from the Bible. Try these out or share these tips with anyone who may be struggling to see themselves as God sees them. We so need to lift each other up and encourage. I’d love to hear your thoughts on what you’ve read here. Please comment here or post on the Hearts Encouraged FB page. Fondly, Terri

Icon Hearts Encouraged (2) Action Step 1 – Thought-Capture Self Check

This self-check is about listening to your internal dialogue and your external verbalization. Monitor what you’re thinking and saying about yourself. Track specific words or phrases you use. Below are sentence starters and phrases that are often associated with sabotaging statements.

I’ll never…

I can’t…

I’m not…

I’m too…

I’m afraid…

How will I…

But…

God can’t…

God won’t…

What if…

It’s impossible.

It’ll never work.

I’m not sure I can.

Once you’ve started really listening to what you say and think about yourself, your second step is to challenge those statements that fall under the category of condemnation, judgment, self-pity, or devaluing yourself. Ask the Holy Spirit for help and use Bible verses like Romans 8:31-39 (The Message): If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else? God can give courage, ability, strength, and the power to reframe your perspective and your thoughts or verbalizations.

Icon Hearts Encouraged (2) Action Step 2 - Power Talk

You need to power talk! It’s food for the heart and soul. You can find plenty of power talk in the Bible. Check out the list below and use these on a daily basis. Be your own champion! Encourage yourself! You’ll find yourself changing how you view yourself and living life better than before.

Power Talk Statements

I can’t wait to see what God will do today.

I choose to be a bold adventurer in my relationship with God.

God has compassion on me.

God has mercy on me.

I have strength to face this day through Jesus.

God’s given me a spirit of power and love.

God delights in me.

God and I will fan into a flame the gifts He has given me to serve.

I can eagerly expect and hope in God.

God calls me to courage.

I am not afraid—God’s presence is with me.

I will have no fear of bad news because I trust in God.

God has the power to do what He promises.

I am not alone, forsaken, nor abandoned.

I am God’s masterpiece and His child.

God’s blessing will enable me to do anything and everything He sets before me.

God knows the plans He has for my life.